The death of a child is a painful one for any parent to bear but to think that your child was suffering enough to take his/her own life is beyond all comprehension.
No matter the means of suicide, ending a life so abruptly raises many questions for those left behind. For the parents, it is the never ending questions that confounds them and prevents closure: What could have led them to commit suicide? Was it our fault? Was it a cry for help that went too far? Could we have done something to stop them? Did someone make them do this? Why did we not see the signs?
A number of reasons could have driven your child to this end: depression; bullying in school which they could no longer handle; mental, physical or emotional abuse; unhappiness or a simple call for attention that went wrong. Whatever their reason, parents can take solace in the fact that, before the age of puberty, their child will not be held accountable for their deeds. Although suicide is a major sin in Islam, it does not push a believer out of the fold of Islam and it is an act that is subject to the will of Allah (glorified and exalted be He) on the Day of Judgment.
Coming to terms with such a tragedy can only be achieved with the help of Allah (glorified and exalted be He). Make dua and plead with Allah (glorified and exalted be He) to ease your pain and bewilderment. You are not to blame for your child’s suicide, even though you may feel responsible and guilt – ridden. .
The rights of ghusl, shrouding and burial still have to be performed for your child and the janazah prayer still has to be offered. Allah (glorified and exalted be He) is All Forgiving and He forgives sins as deep as the sea, provided that the sin in question is not shirk.
Dua is a tool so continue making it with sincerity and full conviction in the knowledge that Allah (glorified and exalted be He) is the ultimate Healer and He will heal the pain you feel from being forced apart from your child. Allah has chosen you for this immense test in life, not because He wishes to punish you, but simply because He wishes to reward you with something far sweeter and greater in your Akhira; eternal peace, to exist there with you child, forever.